A very common question I get is ‘how can I change this person?’
I love the fact that many people care so much that they wish to help people let go off or resolve a problem for someone else.
Unfortunately many people try to help people in the wrong way that actually can reaffirm someone’s issue or even destroy a friendship or relationship.
Telling people what to do doesn’t cut it. Who likes to be told what to do? No one really, in fact they can become passive aggressive or deny having a problem. Simply because many people’s issues become their identity, the nature of suggesting or telling people to change (even offering advice or solutions) can feel like an attack on whom they are. That’s the truth. It’s a battle you will lose and that loss can have big impacts within the communication between a friend, colleague or loved one.
So how do we change someone?
Well I offer you two solutions. Both from different angles but both with the same outcome, to help someone without causing harm, without damaging your relationship or making them feel as if they are being attacked and the great thing is the result will actually inspire people to change themselves.
Now that would be cool wouldn’t it?
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