We hear this quite often, don’t we? But what usually happens when we hear this?

Well the most common response for people who don’t get their results would be:

“Well I don’t want ‘x’ to happen”,
“I don’t want to stay in debt”
“I don’t want to be ill anymore”

I hear this all too often when coaching people and it’s a big problem in why the person hasn’t got the result the way they want it. Even if people say “I want to be well again as I hate being ill all the time” just thinking this will be a hindrance to your success. Why?

Well in order to achieve your outcomes or goals in life, you have to be focused on the end outcome or goal. However sentences like “I don’t want to stay in debt” focus on debt! And whatever your mind focuses on with consistency you attract in your life, it continues to expect and even looks out for it! 

Imagine that sentence for one moment “I don’t want to stay in debt”, when you think about that now, what happens in your mind?

You may make a picture of being in debt
You may associate the bad feelings of being in debt for life i.e. fear, anxiety and unhappiness.
You may hear the words we were taught such as “Money doesn’t grow on trees you know!”, “We can’t all have money!”

Your mind will delete the ‘don’t’ and just make up a picture of ‘Stay in debt’, your hypnotising yourself with that suggestion with “I stay in debt!”

Now if you have one or all or more of these thoughts over a period of time, it naturally causes consistent bad feelings, and guess what the more negative thoughts and feelings you have it will produce limiting beliefs such as ‘Your right money doesn’t grow on trees, I will be in debt for ever, I give up!”

Henry Ford once said “Whether you think you can or can’t, you’re right”

This is so true. So what are you focusing on?  Are you focusing on the lack of or the abundance of?

Now imagine if you will the thought “I am Healthy and Wealthy”

What happens? It’s a whole lot of new set of thoughts and feelings right?

You see a picture of you being healthy, and wealthy
That brings feelings of energy, security and happiness.
It may creates the words “I can, I will, I have”

Now even if in reality its not presently true, if you change your thoughts to be consistent like the above, it to will create new feelings, and over time will create strong empowering beliefs that will cause you mind and body to search for the answers and attract those people, relationships, health, wealth and happiness into your life.

What’s your outcome? And more importantly what’s your point of focus?

Your friend

Joseph

Everyday we have so many options and potentials that we seem to miss.

Why? Is it that we are tied down to the ‘rat race’ of life? Why do we choose to have meaning on the events that we cannot control? The events that hit us sideways- such as a birth, a death, a positive or negative intense life experience?

These are questions I have asked myself more than I care to remember. Then it hit me – we don’t need more questions. We need more direction and understanding.

We are intelligent enough to realise that we see what we want to see. Hear what we want to hear. For example, abused partners in relationships often brush under the carpet the abuse, torment and emotional and physical hurt in the distorted belief their partner ‘is a really nice person deep down’.

How we lose our keys and say to ourselves ‘I can’t find my keys, I have lost them’, yet we find them on the table we checked 30 times already.

How people with eating disorders see a huge obese person when in reality they’re on the verge of death through years of starving.

Are we sending suggestions to our unconscious to distort, even delete parts of our view of life?

How can we get crystal clear clarity in our lives? How can we focus on meaning rather existing?

Okay, first we have to stop, look and listen to what’s happening inside ourselves. We focus too much on the future, causing the rush of life – wasting too much energy on the external materialistic items. Not that that buying nice things is bad-in fact I mean the opposite, but how can we fully benefit those luxuries if we can’t experience real meaning and connection with ourselves first?

We have got to start living in the present – to live in the now.

So here we go some tips for living in the now – with meaning:

An attitude of gratitude anchor – find a small stone or another nice small item which you can carry around on a daily basis. I would suggest putting it with your keys or your wallet as these are thing we use daily.

Here’s what we do, at night you would empty your pockets taking out your keys, wallet and Gratitude anchor. Every time you pick touch/see the gratitude anchor think of all the things you’re grateful for. Do the same when picking it up in the morning and any other time you see or touch the item. This will start to develop powerful new associations of gratitude, whilst strengthening that feeling each time you do the process. When this happens we start to feel good about the now and give meaning and appreciation for where we are right now, therefore letting life flow with us, rather than against us. After a period of time, your unconscious will be hooked up to those feelings and will naturally give you the feeling of gratitude and living in the now. In just the same way we automatically put our hand out when some puts theirs out to you when greeting each other- it will become unconscious.

So what are you grateful for? Hey don’t say ‘I don’t know my life is rubbish’! What about the fact you may have a roof over your head, family, a job, health, the eyes to read this? We can be thankful for anything and everything.

Start living with meaning, create momentum with it, because when you flow so does everything else.

Your friend

Joseph

Celebrity Mind Coach

I firmly believe, that if we hold onto the things we don’t need, there’s not enough room for new exciting things to come into your life. Because its already full of the clutter.

I like the metaphor that if you go into a room of your house and see lots of clutter, its represents your life. After all, the outer world only represents our inner world.

But let’s take it a little deeper shall we?

Every client I see always wants something more out of life and it can even vary to things such as people wanting to move out of their present circle of friends and surround themselves with new positive supporting friends. But if we don’t make the decision to stop seeing our present friends, who aren’t supportive of where we are going, there won’t be enough room to allow the new friends in.

It goes the same for intimate relationships, if you don’t see a future with your present partner and no longer wish to be with him or her but stay in the unhappy relationship, there’s not much of chance of meeting the ‘one’.   

If you have dis-order in your environment and you feel its time to get more out of life, whether that’s more money, more clothes, more friends or a new relationship we have to think its time to make some important decisions, to make a commitment to ourselves to no longer settle for second best.

If you only settle for second best, you focus and expect second best. But when we refuse to have nothing less than the best in all areas of our life, we change our focus. When you change your focus you change your outcome.

Your conscious mind is the goal setter, the part of you who chooses what you want. The unconscious mind is the goal getter.

But the question is: Are you consciously setting your unconscious to attract second best or the best out of life?

Your Friend

Joseph

Celebrity Mind Coach

So what is this NLP stuff, I guess your thinking? Well, it stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming. And now your thinking ‘Neuro Linguistic.. what?’ right?

Okay to me, to put it simply, it’s how through our language (linguistic) we can change (programming) how our mind and body (neurology) works. From reproducing excellence, to clearing out fears, limiting beliefs, behaviours and in turn actually acquiring the feelings, behaviours and positive mind-sets we want.  When we came to earth we weren’t given a manual on how our brains worked, but I like to think of NLP as that manual.

So let’s break this down a little:

Neuro: The nervous system (the mind), through which we experience our life via the five senses:

•  Our Sight

•  Our Hearing

•  Our Touch

•  Our Smell

•  Our Taste

Linguistic: Our Language and other nonverbal communication systems- through the internal images we hold in our mind. For example how you perceive the world around you. I.e. is the glass of water half full or half empty? It’s whatever you believe, right?

Programming: The ability to discover and utilize the programs that we run inside ourselves- such as beliefs, feelings and behaviours to achieve our specific and desired outcomes in life.

Okay to put it simply, changing your mind therefore your results.

So where did it come from?

NLP was created by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in the early 1970’s. Richard and John met at the University of California in Santa Cruz. Richard was a student at the university, he was a mathematician, computer expert and therapist. Whereas John was a language professor at the University. 

Together they began to study experts in field of human change and development, where they began to uncover some interesting patterns in renowned therapists in America. When studying and modelling the therapist Virginia Satir for example (a very successful family therapist in Palo Alto, California) they discovered that she had the ability to affect and change her clients behaviour by being very specific. A little later, Gregory Bateson told them of a brilliant hypnotist in Arizona who would get his results utilising hypnosis and artfully vague language patterns. This guy was called Milton Erickson, he was a medical doctor and he took hypnosis from the stage to the therapy.

The successes that Bandler and Grinder discovered led to the Meta Model (Satir’s process) and Milton Model (Ericksons process) being created. The Meta Model is very specific and the Milton Model is vague and ambiguous. These language patterns would get results in minutes and hours rather than the psychotherapist’s months and years.

This was the start of Neuro Linguistic Programming. Through the experimentation of their discoveries and using the techniques which they modelled from people who got great results, they created processes of learning.

John and Richard studied the strategies of people who were the very best in their field, which in NLP we call Modelling. Once they organised these techniques, they taught their students to replicate them and used them with their own clients. Their students would then be able to install the behavioral changes using these techniques inside themselves.

Through this attitude of this experimentation and learning NLP has been expanded throughout the years. From the original training of eight, there are now many experienced and effective NLP trainers throughout the world.

NLP begins to give us the tools for personal change so that we live the life we truly deserve. Whether that be in our health, relationships or careers.

In addition to therapy, NLP has been used successfully in sales, business, education and many other vocations and to me that’s a brief history of NLP to date.

I use NLP in all of my Self Hypnosis audio programs and run trainings in NLP though Prime Directives.

Your Friend,

JosephCelebrity Mind Coach

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Imagine a life free of all limitations…

What would you do?

The way i see it is; life is meant to be good for you, so on this Blog I will be giving you my up-to-date techniques and methods to continue your personal growth in all areas of your life.

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Your friend,

Joseph

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